By Natalie Tucker Miller
Have you ever given thought to how your family members relate to one another?
Not the kind of thought that criticizes how someone acts or what someone says, rather an investigative look at how your family interacts with one another on a regular basis.
The movie "Little Miss Sunshine" reminded me of how precious our relationships are, and that we seldom stop to contemplate how these interactions impact ourselves, others and our family as a whole.
This movie exemplifies fragmented family life, and the wisdom that resides within regardless of obvious discord. Wisdom, however, that is all too often compartmentalized, shut off from the larger perspective of working together for the good of everyone. In the movie, their outcome brings them a step closer to this realization.
I propose we create our family lives on purpose, with purpose rather than by default or habit.
For instance, strength, acceptance, empathy, positive sense of self; these are all qualities we probably all naturally embody, until we feel the stakes are too high.
Which stakes?
Usually an inaccurate sense of who we are. An unwillingness or inability to feel the gut wrenching pain we fear will accompany honesty. The fear that our true selves will be too much for us to face.
Challenge yourself today to pause and observe the way interactions with your family members unfold.
Notice:
* Which rote responses are offered.
* How often there is a reaction without real thought behind it.
Would you be willing to:
* Allow yourself the freedom to not react?
* Give yourself permission, for one day, to ponder what you hear rather than jump in with, what tends to be, a protective reaction?
* Spend some time simply observing the patterns that have emerged?
Often we insidiously become overly concerned with self preservation, and find ourselves in an environment that isn't supporting full engagement, deliberate living nor encouraging feeling our lives fully. Our own oppression becomes so ingrained, we lose the will to self express.
So today, I invite you take a minute, or an hour, or the day, and observe. Witness your automatic reactions to situations or conversations, noting how you show up with different people. Study how others do, as well. Begin to recognize how you would rather interact, how you'd prefer to"be" as a family.
Once you allow your true preferences to emerge, transformation will begin. As we've been told, real change begins from within. Creating the family life of your dreams is an amaz Mother-In-Laws - How to Transform One of the Toughest Family Relationships
By Jacqueline Gr
eening place to start looking inward.
For other information visit--> http://arsandy.wordpress.com
Have you ever given thought to how your family members relate to one another?
Not the kind of thought that criticizes how someone acts or what someone says, rather an investigative look at how your family interacts with one another on a regular basis.
The movie "Little Miss Sunshine" reminded me of how precious our relationships are, and that we seldom stop to contemplate how these interactions impact ourselves, others and our family as a whole.
This movie exemplifies fragmented family life, and the wisdom that resides within regardless of obvious discord. Wisdom, however, that is all too often compartmentalized, shut off from the larger perspective of working together for the good of everyone. In the movie, their outcome brings them a step closer to this realization.
I propose we create our family lives on purpose, with purpose rather than by default or habit.
For instance, strength, acceptance, empathy, positive sense of self; these are all qualities we probably all naturally embody, until we feel the stakes are too high.
Which stakes?
Usually an inaccurate sense of who we are. An unwillingness or inability to feel the gut wrenching pain we fear will accompany honesty. The fear that our true selves will be too much for us to face.
Challenge yourself today to pause and observe the way interactions with your family members unfold.
Notice:
* Which rote responses are offered.
* How often there is a reaction without real thought behind it.
Would you be willing to:
* Allow yourself the freedom to not react?
* Give yourself permission, for one day, to ponder what you hear rather than jump in with, what tends to be, a protective reaction?
* Spend some time simply observing the patterns that have emerged?
Often we insidiously become overly concerned with self preservation, and find ourselves in an environment that isn't supporting full engagement, deliberate living nor encouraging feeling our lives fully. Our own oppression becomes so ingrained, we lose the will to self express.
So today, I invite you take a minute, or an hour, or the day, and observe. Witness your automatic reactions to situations or conversations, noting how you show up with different people. Study how others do, as well. Begin to recognize how you would rather interact, how you'd prefer to"be" as a family.
Once you allow your true preferences to emerge, transformation will begin. As we've been told, real change begins from within. Creating the family life of your dreams is an amaz Mother-In-Laws - How to Transform One of the Toughest Family Relationships
By Jacqueline Gr
eening place to start looking inward.
For other information visit--> http://arsandy.wordpress.com
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